Q. So we can't be 100% sure and yet we should give ourselves 100%, how exactly does this work out?
A. The best a man can do is to tell his bride and the woman her groom about TWO DECISIONS they've made: the first decision is for each to give themselves to the other. This decision is what we call "love". It is not a feeling, it is a decision. Feelings only aid or hamper the decision just like you may have decided you will get out of bed, but feelings of tiredness from the day before or of the cold weather outside or of the excitement for the interesting plot you have with friends later that day hamper or aid your decision to roll out of bed.
The second decision is not to reverse the first decision. "I have decided to love you and I will continue loving you till I die and quite literally can't continue making decisions precisely because I'm dead."
If you've ever studied the traditional exchange of vows at a wedding these two elements or decisions are spoken out loud:
-the decision to love ""I... take you to be my lawfully wedded [spouse] to have and to hold..."
-despite feelings that aid or hamper: "...in sickness and in health, in poverty and wealth, in good times and in bad times..."
-and the decision to preserve that decision forever: "...till death do us part."
A vocation from God that does not entail getting married demands no less. It too has the same two fundamental decisions: to love and forever.
Have a 100% day!
1st December 2015